There are dreams that tries to give us answers about questions that were never responded to in the past. Not that it still matters now, sometimes, shedding light to things that are already forgotten gives us valuable insights about what to watch out for in the future.
These are not “established” by any organization, if there’s such thing governing social norms. Neither is this from any literature online or paperback. These are Social Norms based on obvious repetitive signs and behavioral patterns I have personally observed for the last 27 years or let’s say at least half of that since I honestly never mind other people and my society during my first few decades.
My own definition of a Social Norm
I understand that I have just defined something that has been long defined and made it worse. But for the sake of literature, pardon me please.
So, what are the common Social Norms according to me:
It’s like somebody is telling you the seat is taken, I have just left a part of my butt on there.
I currently live in a female compound. We look after ourselves.
In some countries where gender equality is not well acknowledged, there is an advantage about it for women.
Honestly I don’t really get offended every time nobody stands up to offer his seat for me. I am pretty much a feminist and I like that men respects my ability to stand in a moving vehicle. If I am an old woman though, I would definitely ask someone to stand for me as my knees will hurt if I’d stand for long, and that’s a more respectable way of showing courtesy.
In a sorority house, female dormitories… Where some people think they may be Queen Bees.
Let’s admit it. Not everywhere requires people to fall in line. But if there is service and you came in first, you would always wanna be taken care of ahead of others.
I think this is a universal sign for “Back Off, don’t want any company”. Although, this case can be reversible and is also quite impolite, I mean, come on, you don’t own the place.
Believe me when I say this can potentially start a World War 3. Nobody is happy to be awaken when its not time yet.
Food for example, regardless how delicious it looks like. Buy if you can.
There could be hundreds and thousands of other clues to make this world a better place for us. For now, be eating my tuna sandwich and watching people move around.
I am scared.
Sometimes I want to tell people that. Or at least tell someone that I am that person who is not afraid to jump off a cliff, or confront a furious dog, or be alone in the dark but I am afraid. The problem is, how do I tell them that I don’t know what exactly I am scared about.
I don’t fear things that normal people would do, I don’t fear death, illness, failing an exam, not being accepted, direct threat, smell of danger, heights, painful procedure, being forgotten, being lonely. No, and that’s what is making it difficult to admit I am scared. I do fear one absolute thing though; LOSS.
But I don’t think I’m about to lose something or someone right now, that is not exactly what’s making me uneasy. There is just a part of me that’s making me feel like I don’t want to do anything for the fear of undesirable outcomes. It feels like something is about to happen, and it’s going to be pretty bad. thinking about what I am feeling also makes me really anxious about how I may have uncontrolled psychological dilemma, that all my useless fretting maybe a result of ANXIETY. Let me check on myself, do I tremble? do I stop talking to people and worry about things on my own? do I have troubles falling asleep or does something wake me up in the middle of the night lately? do I sweat for no apparent reasons? do I have fine tremors with no cause? have I been losing my interpersonal relationships lately? do I feel or do my friends feel like I’m starting to become detached? What are the other symptoms? I am not sure. Why am I not sure?
I maybe overthinking, this maybe hormones, is it that time of the month yet? Am I slowly losing control of my own intellect and emotions? Is this triggered by something, a news? an event? Am I going crazy? or probably in denial? DENIAL. My brain must be trying so hard to suppress some fearsome memories that in the process makes me forget what I’m actually afraid of. I think I may need HELP.
I’m in bliss being here after a dreadful process with my recruitment agency to get this job as an OFW Nurse. I worked in Saudi Arabia for two years and now I’m back with King Fahad Medical City in Riyadh. Processing with LBS Recruitment Corporation was very unpleasant for me and extremely expensive as well as they are the only agency who recruited for King Fahad Medical City who asked for a placement fee amounting to one month salary with 12% value added tax. Apart from that, I also had to pay a lot of miscellaneous fees, Embassy Stamping amounting to one thousand pesos per “Red Ribbon” document, they also asked for an “Enjaz” fee of 500php, I paid for my own PhilHealth contribution of 2 years around 2400php on top of the placement fee, and worst of all I had to pay an OEC renewal because they prematurely availed one for me more than a month before my flight. I am totally disappointed with LBS Recruitment for the vague process and their processing staffs are not very courteous and neither are they professional nor competent about the job as well. I can’t help but compare how disorganized LBS has been with handling my papers as they asked me to do one thing at a time whereas I could’ve done the same things altogether especially that I am residing at a distant area outside Metro Manila. I had spent approximately more than one hundred thousand pesos going back and forth Manila, doing my own documents and stayed 6 months waiting since I started applying with their agency.
I haven’t officially started working with KFMC since I have just arrived, I am looking forward to a worth it experience and I really do hope my money is worth this job. I strive to have a positive perspective with my workplace despite hearsay. For a consolation, I was able to land in their new female accommodation that gave me the delight after all what I have been through previously.